The Celebrations Weekend Share #64

We are celebrating this weekend, come and tell me what you are going to celebrate, be it be big or small

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If you have never done this before, give it a go, you lose maybe 30 seconds of your life adding a link and you never know who might see it, I will, my mum probably will, so its well worth it.

As everything is life there are rules, if you are new or just need reminding here they are

Rules are very simple,

  1. You can share up to five links
  2. They can be a post, your blog, someone elses post or blog
  3. You can comment on here from now till 11.30pm on Friday evening (GMT time)
  4. I shall start sharing from Midnight Saturday till 11.30pm Sunday (GMT time)
  5. It can be anything you want, however I will have final say if I think its is classed as an ism (racism, sexism etc)

If you would like to tweet, share, or reblog and get more people involved then go for it. Otherwise don’t be shy, you have nothing to lose by sharing something.

So if you have a post that you want more exposure, or maybe even your blog. Maybe you have seen someone elses post and thought I need to get that out, then share it. Its all a good giggle.

Just to add on this, don’t worry if you don’t follow me, just add a link, I love reading new blogs, you will still get approved (as long as you have followed the rules) and then reblogged, so if you have taken a look at my blog and thought, not something I am interested, well you are weird, but thats your choice, but your blog or link might interest another one of my followers.

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Monkey has found computer games, I honestly think these fucking things should not be allowed to anyone under the age of 18.

Monkey seems to think he should be able to spend the time he gets in the door to the time he goes to bed on the fucking x box.

I disagree

So far, I am stunting his growth as a human, I am very mean, I don’t love him anymore

And this is just based on a few hours, not a few hours a day, just a few hours.

I came up with a compromise that he could have an hour on the xbox and he had to read me 2 pages of his book. It was like I started world war 3 and very possibly have wiped out all human race.

Being a parent is tough, but this is the first time we have come across something he will not compromise on, Which means, being the parent I am (in his eyes) sacrificing him to the Azetec and good luck to them.

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My thoughts

In the last 18 months, I can’t tell you how many times, I have had conversations with the various people or departments I am fighting.

I have gone over and over in my head the conversations I might be having with the tribunal, with my MP, with anyone in my way.

Now its over, it feels like I have an empty brain, I can’t even remember what I was thinking about before this happened.

To be honest I have had full blown arguments with myself, trying to think what might happen and its now all over.

This is a very weird feeling

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The Tribunal

I wanted to do a post, for anyone who was in the same position as me and facing a PIP tribunal.

First of all, let me explain PIP (personal independence payment) has nothing to do with your condition, its all about what you can and can’t do.

The reason you are at a tribunal stage is because you have an assessment, where you saw a medical professional, the problem is this professional might not have any in depth knowledge of what your condition can limit you to. For example I have known people with mental health issues who have seen physiotherapist, now while they don’t need to know much about your condition, because again, its about how you are limited, it would be nice to have someone who knows a little more than the basics.

After this assessment you would of been turned down, you then go to the second stage which is a mandatory reconsideration, this is where you have received the report from the person who has assessed you, they would of written everything down that you said and a decision has been made on this, now while I don’t want to get into the ins and outs, this is often wrong, or has been written in a way that shows you are better than you actually are. You would of needed to go through this with a fine tooth comb, picking up anything you disagree with.

I will say at every stage, do not do what I did, which was rely on myself and my friend C to double check my spelling, there is loads of help out there, use it. To be fair C wrote some brilliant lines for me and was a massive help and support during this.

I also made sure I sent as much evidence as possible, including my medical notes to back up everything I said.

To be at a tribunal, you would of also been turned down at the mandatory reconsideration, do not lose hope, I don’t have the exact figures, but most people are turned down at this stage.

You have the date for your tribunal, first thing, its probably been a while, so go back through all your paperwork, have notes on which of the descriptions you feel you should of been awarded points. Make lots of notes, its all about what you can do the majority of the time, if the majority of time you can’t touch your toes, but managed to do it once 3 weeks ago, don’t mention it, its all about the majority of time. I cannot stress that enough.

Just because its a court, I know we all feel we need to get suited and booted, if you are not going to feel comfortable don’t, they won’t mind. I turned up in jeans and a big baggy jumper, because that is what I felt comfortable in.

If you arrive about ten minutes before you are due to be heard, that will give you enough time, just to go over everything again. When you get to the court, you will probably have to go through a metal detector, they will then put you into a side room, where you will wait to be called, if your tribunal is late morning or afternoon, be prepared for a wait. They sometimes get delayed.

The tribunal is made up of 3 people, the judge, a doctor and another legal person. Sometimes the DWP sends someone, its unusual but it can happen, so be prepared for that.

You will sit facing them and they will ask questions, just answer as honestly as possible. Always remember the words no I can’t. don’t say things like no but…. because if you sound like you can do it most days they have to include that in their judgement.

They are an independent panel, so they don’t have an agenda. Its usual and ok to feel anxious and upset, don’t try and hide this and put on a stiff upper lip, they need to know what it is like to be you for a day.

Don’t try and exaggerate or lie about your condition, they will see through that. Be as honest as possible but don’t try and make yourself sound healthier than you are. Its a fine line to be honest, I hated admitting how limited I am, but it had to be done.

The tribunal will last about an hour, all 3 will ask questions of yourself and if you have bought someone with you, in my case my partner, they may ask them questions. Take your time, if you need more time to answer tell them, if you need to find your notes, just mention that. At the end, they will ask you if there is anything else you want to say, I had a checklist of what I wanted to say, which we had gone over most of it, the only thing that hadn’t been mentioned was my sleep pattern, which while, isn’t important on its own, gives them a bigger picture.

After it is all done, they will send you out of the room so they can discuss, you will be taken back into the side room, where you just have to wait.

After a while (in my case 15 minutes) you will be called back in and given their verdict.

If you get a no, that can be a blow, especially if you have waited a while for the tribunal. However there is no recourse, the tribunal is the last place to get a decision, what you can do however is apply again for PIP, I know people who have been turned down twice only to get it on the third go.

If you get a yes, the DWP has 28 days to appeal the decision, yeah I don’t get it either. Hopefully though, they won’t and you will start getting the money coming is soon. I have read people receiving money as quick as 2 weeks, also from people who have had to wait months.

If you are just starting out with PIP, the best advice I can give you is write a diary from around the time of the assessment, it will really help your memory, I had was this blog and at the time of the assessment I wasn’t blogging, I also had an old mood diary, but I hadn’t written much in there either, so it was really tough to try and remember nearly 18 months ago, check facebook, old calenders, diaries, phone, anything like that.


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*Reblog* It’s that time of year again

I get these all the time, but recently I am getting phone calls from HMRC (Tax office) number, telling me a warrant is out for my arrest. Another scam

The Bag Lady

FOR SCAMS! Phishing, or whatever you want to call it, may look official, but beware! If you are like me you don’t have income flying out of your ears for stuff like this. If you get emails like this DO NOT RESPOND! Just delete.



This isn’t the first time I’ve gotten this crap. If you don’t know the sender, just delete. If you respond you’re just put on another list to receive more scams. Don’t let yourself be vulnerable.

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Update on Links

I usually try and post links every day to different blogs, however since my laptop stopped working, I have lost all the data, the laptop can be fixed, we are just waiting on some money to do it.

Hopefully they will start again fairly soon

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*Reblog* Minon Thoughts – I like people you can joke around with…

Love this

Simon's Blog

I do think this… there are a few of them around here!

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