I was reading a forum today about how someone was thinking of not having children, because of so called slummy mummy blogs.
I am sure you have seen them, the ones which focus on basically having a drink, how hard it is to have children and how unrewarding it is.
I will admit that I am the first to say I probably write like this at times. Because having children is fucking hard work. I have written a few times about the judgement you face when being a parent, normally from other parents.
But its not just that, children have this talent to drive you to the very edge and then hug you so its so much better.
As babies, they cry, they do other things like shit and sleep, but they cry, there is nothing harder than having someone who can’t communicate what is wrong crying at you and its your responsibility to figure it out. Its a bit like playing charades with no clues.
The guilt you feel for so long whenever they start crying, sometimes babies don’t sleep. So along with the guilt already you are probably suffering sleep deprevaiation.
For so many years, it seems to have been pounded into us how lovely it is to get pregnant and have a baby and how perfect it all is. How you just need to be strong with said child.
Nothing was ever said of morning sickness, and how that is actually not true, it can last all day, nothing was said about how hard it is to breastfeed, nothing was said about the fact there is no consoling a toddler who wants to wear his swimming trunks and nothing else in the middle of a snow blizzard. Or how exactly you negotiate wearing boots instead of shoes, and then halfway through the debate they throw in the fact that they want the red boots and not the blue boots.
Being a parent is damn hard and now parenting blogs are coming out and saying just how hard it is. Dont be fulled by the 2.4 children and how they will never strop. My child would strop at not going to the park, even though he had just spent half an hour stropping about going to the damn place.
Don’t kid yourself on it, its hard and at times unrewarding, but ultimaely it is one of the best things you can do as an adult, however not all adults want to do it and that is fine as well. You can do other stuff, like sleep and have lie ins