Serious side of the elf

As I have mentioned I do the elf, but I came across a problem this year that I haven’t had to deal with, and that is my son is very excited about Nestor coming to see us and wants to tell all his friends about what the elf is doing.

This is lovely right up till he tells a friend who’s parents took the sensible option and didn’t do an elf.

You get the questions, but why doesn’t Sid have an elf? does that mean I am naughtier than Sid? Am I on Santa’s bad boy list? I thought the elves went to everyone’s houses.

And I am sure poor Sid’s parents are getting it from the opposite end. Why does monkey get an elf? Have I not been good enough to get an elf? Everyone else has an elf.

So then you are sat there, thinking, shit how do I answer these questions? What the hell are Sid’s parents saying.

Its not like you can say, Sid’s parents decided they didn’t want an elf because after a couple of glasses of wine moving the fucking thing just seems like far to much effort and they can’t be arsed to think of a good enough excuse as to why the elf didn’t move. Or words to that effect.

You can’t really explain to a five year old, that maybe Sid’s family want to different traditions as a family, because that still doesn’t explain why Father Christmas didn’t send an elf to Sid’s house.

I never did come up with an answer that was good enough, I ultimately went with, maybe their elf is ill. I stopped short at and maybe Santa will send a special present to make up for it.


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8 Responses to Serious side of the elf

  1. TJ Fox says:

    I always struggled with the concept of Santa with my kids because you are essentially lying to your kids and I hated that. In the end I did it because it was magical and fun and isn’t something I would have wanted to miss even with the lying. I always tried to keep it downplayed a bit in importance and not do much to make it end up a traumatic experience when they finally found out.

    In this case you can always just say that Santa respects each families traditions and it doesn’t have to do with being good or bad, just what each family decides is best for them. It allows the other kid’s family the ability to say whatever they need to to their kid without it directly contradicting what you’ve said to yours.

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    • Ooohhh I like that and I agree with you, I really struggled with the whole Santa thing, its not just the lying, but essentially someone else taking all the credit for the hardwork I put it. However as you say it is magical and fun.

      I really like that though, I am still trying to explain tradition to him, along with the fact that some people don’t celebrate Christmas.

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      • TJ Fox says:

        That part was a bit easier for me because we have some Jehova’s Witness close in the family. That forced conversations from the very beginning and they just grew up with the understanding that not everyone is the same. Nice, but still complicated.

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      • He is surrounded by different cultures, and understands that people don’t celebrate the same things, but he can’t get his head round why Santa (or an elf) doesn’t visit every single child

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  2. It’s a tough one. We’ve never done the elf and have never been big on Christmas stuff. Here in NL, it’s Sinta Klaas… I’m not big on it either, but it’s special for the Dutch kids.Much like the topic of God, I guess.

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