Sleep, depression, anxiety and general bullshit

I have had a few posts recently which explains that I am having a tough time with my council. Let me try and explain.

In December they suspended my Housing Benefit, this is something that helps pay for my rent. This went on past Christmas, putting a massive strain on our financial situation that was already in dire straits. We have been robbing Peter to pay Paul for nearly a year now, having this happen just before Christmas was just a shit. However they were doing their job, which I can understand. They eventually sent me my report, which lowered my housing benefit by 71% give or take. I couldn’t figure out how they worked that out, our circumstances hadn’t changed that much, since they last did it, so I appealed.

In Feburary, while still waiting for this damn appeal, I got 2 lovely letters from them, one stating I owed nearly 4k in back payments and the other stating I had till the end of the financial year (end of March) to pay the council tax I owed, which was nearly £2k.

These also were appealed (still waiting) however, something must of happened because on Saturday I got a letter saying they had made a slight mistake and I actually owed £300 in back payments, I am still waiting for the council tax letter. That is not a slight mistake, that is a massive fucking cock up, causing undue stress and misery to both myself and my partner.

Also on Saturday, I got a phonecall from my landlord. What I will say is my landlord has been great, she has been paid late a lot and recently it has been tough to even pay the rent, however this is her only form of income, I am late, then she is late paying her bills, meaning she gets charges, which could be avoided if I had paid on time, she informed me, that if it continued then she would have to give me notice, which while not a total shock, because you know I am screwing her, while the government screws me, was still not a happy phonecall. I explained everything I was doing, but she ultimately has to protect herself, which I get.

The problem we have is that where I live is a very expensive part of the country, the chances of ever getting into social housing is remote. I want to move further North, where is it cheaper, but that sometimes means job opportunities are not as available. Also, we have my stepson to consider, my partner doesn’t want to move too far away, which is fair enough, but at the moment, something needs to break and we don’t know what.

Its a very stressful time at the moment, which is why I am not sleeping, why my depression is so bad and why my anxiety is so bad.

I just want to get better and get a job and get off benefits, the problem is, everytime I get into a good place we get thrown a curveball. I am not sure what the answer is and I know we will figure it, but it might mean uprooting our family, who knows maybe this will all get sorted in the next couple of weeks.

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70 Responses to Sleep, depression, anxiety and general bullshit

  1. Donnalee says:

    I hope it works out well. Times are really hard all over lately–we have the money shortage thing too. I hope it gets better for all.

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  2. I really hope this works itself out for y’all. I know how stressful money woes can be. It’s all-consuming at times. 😔

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  3. A. White says:

    Sometimes relocating may not feel good but often it saves money, time and stress.

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  4. Cyranny says:

    I am so sorry to read this, Trina! I wish I could be of any help… But my warmest thoughts, good wishes and occasional goofiness to try to put a smile on your face are the only things I can offer :/ I really hope things turn to the best! You know where to find me, if you need to vent or just chat…. *hugs*

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  5. Hoping for the best for you. Dealing with anxiety and depression is hard enough as it is.

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  6. I totally understand . . when gov decided that, because I taught my child practical living skills he was no longer handicapped enough to get SSI, I began also robbing Peter to pay Paul, John to pay Peter and Ron to pay John . . it was a vicious circle!! After a year up in the air we landed in Ohio and are a tiny bit settled . . I am feeling we may be something of nomads. . . and I am beginning to embrace the nomad life as a fun option to keep bills low . .

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  7. Aww that sounds really tough … so sorry you’re going through all this. Money or the lack of it is a killer. If I may say my piece? I’d say a plan is needed. A big solid fat plan on a big piece of paper for you and your partner to do together, working out how much you owe, how much you spend, how much you both bring in and do some sums. Throw about the ideas together … how to bring down the costs and up the income. There will be a way, it’s just a matter of finding it. For example I started doing little gardening jobs for people. Being outside, exercise, speaking with people and earning money alongside learning something new was a complete life changer. I’ve thought about doing cleaning jobs for people, just writing cards and putting them through letterboxes … just a thought?? I don’t know how your health is but if you can find something? Just a thought … in the meantime, huge hugs and positive thoughts for you. Katie x

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    • Thank you, I have thought of doing something like that, or maybe dog walking, but (and a big but) any work I do, means I have a large amount of benefits taken off me. There is no in between, even volunteering is not allowed

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      • Yes, I don’t know if you’re in the U.K., but you do have to stick to their rules. When my boys were little I got tax credits and working tax credits and the standard child benefit thing that everyone gets. As long as I was doing between I think it was 16 – 23 hours a week I was getting a fair whack of money from the government, so I was doing a bit of gardening (self-employed) and also working for a nursery school for a few hours every week too to bring in some stability to the finances too. Of course the benefit to the nursery is in getting discounted rates for the kids and being able to work whilst they are being looked after. Dog walking would be brilliant … what a great idea! I have friends who have set up brilliant businesses doing just that, and having dogs to stay ( child-friendly only!) and have made a small fortune … you go for it girl! Make that plan … write down your ideas … you’re going to be out of your situation in no time at all. Anything I can help with … shout … I’m here to listen. Katie x

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      • I am in the UK, and as I keep going forward to improving my mental health, dog walking is one of the things I am looking at. Maybe even dog training, but that involves lots of courses and qualifications and things, so its something to work towards. I don’t intend to go through the ESA and PIP assessments again, so it gives me 3 years to get as mentally healthy as it takes to get a job and sort things out.

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      • Well done you! Dog walking sounds like it kills lots of birds with one stone so to speak, money, exercise, fresh air etc etc and maybe later on you could do dog training … x

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      • Thats the plan, as long as my brain cooperates then we are there

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  8. kmichonski says:

    So sorry for your struggle, thank you for sharing…rooting for you!

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  9. Mummanopoly says:

    Hope things have improved a little since your last post! My advice would be feed the happy thoughts wherever you can. When you get a negative thought try and pay it no attention! Of course it’s easier said than done! Xx

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  10. Please check my latest post ‘Insecurity, Anxiety and Depression’. It’s specially for parents to know and understand better about their children and what they’re being going through. It’s really important to spread awareness and saving lives of our precious little kids. You’re doing great work. God bless you.

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